Listen, if you’re going to take them, follow these precautions so they don’t go anywhere you don’t intend them to.
LAST WEEK, GOOGLE announced a handy new upcoming feature for Google Photos: the ability to hide your sexy photos in a Locked Folder where friends can’t accidentally swipe to it. OK, sure, Google didn’t come right out and say that’s what it’s for, but we all know it’s not for photos of your secret dog. However, a hidden folder is only one part of a balanced privacy diet. Here’s how to be safe from start to finish if you decide to take and share photos of yourself.
Before we get started, a disclaimer: The surest way to ensure that nude photos of you never end up somewhere you didn’t intend is to not take nude photos. Just like the surest way to avoid pregnancy or STIs is to never have sex. But it’s important to recognize that abstinence-only education is incomplete. So, while remembering that not taking nude photos is an option (and no one should ever pressure you to take compromising photos of yourself), this guide will focus on how to stay safe without resorting to digital abstinence.Make Sure You Trust the Recipient
As with any intimate act, sharing nude photos or videos of yourself requires trust. It’s a good idea, before you even take the pictures, to know whether the person you’re sending them to might share them with someone else or keep them longer than you agree to, or whether they can be trusted to delete them if you ask.
Unfortunately, figuring out how to trust another person is a bit too complicated for a guide like this, but here are a few red flags that might indicate it’s better to hold off:
- You’ve only known them for a short time. Hormones can make anyone seem better, safer, and more exciting than they actually are. If you just met someone and you don’t yet know a whole lot about them, it’s never a bad idea to wait.
- They’re pressuring you to do things you’re uncomfortable with. If you’re not comfortable taking photos of yourself, and your partner’s response is, “C’mon baby, I need to see you!” that’s a big red flag that they don’t respect your boundaries.
- Your personal or professional reputation would be harmed if the photos got out. Depending on the industry or community you work in, it might not be much of a scandal if photos of you got out. In fact, some communities exist to support people voluntarily sharing their photos with strangers. However, you are never required to be part of that group. If you think your work, family, or friends could be affected, it might be safer to skip the sharing, even if you trust your partner.
No matter what, remember the number one rule: You should always be able to say no. Not just to taking or sharing the photos initially, but anything that comes after. If you don’t want a partner to share your images, post them online, or store them somewhere unsafe, or if you want them to delete the photos at any time, you should be able to ask for that. If someone tries to take that option away from you, they’re not respecting your consent and they might not be a good person to share sensitive images with.
Original publication 5 June, 2021
Posted on NatCorn 10th June 2021
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