It’s that time of year again when the mercury soars and a quick dip beckons.
But who wants to wrestle with soggy swimmers? There’s nothing that will make you feel further from the office or worksite this holiday season than tossing aside your clothes – yes, all of them – and plunging into the waters of the Sapphire Coast au naturel.
And if you’d like to make it a legal skinny dip, Armands Beach near Bermagui should be on your list. It was declared legally clothes-optional by Bega Valley Shire Council in November 1993 and is frequented by a posse of locals known as the Armands Beach Leisure Group. The group runs annual events which are open to all.
“It is a clothing-optional beach,” emphasises Dave Bulman, a member of the beach leisure group and frequent visitor to Armands Beach, “so people can wear whatever they are comfortable in”.
The beach was named after Armand Lemmeric, a Frenchman who owned a farm behind Armands Beach and regularly swam nude there.
According to Dave, in the 1930s the beach was known for its nude cricket matches.
Dave says that after growing up “very shy and self-conscious”, he now lives nude as much as he can and feels comfortable in his own skin.
In Cornwall we really are blessed with some of the country’s finest coastline and it’s most beautiful beaches. There are literally hundreds to choose from. We have prehistoric beaches, beaches with shipwrecks, lots of shipwrecks. Beaches with smugglers, beaches with treasure and romantic rock carvings. There are so many fascinating stories. But one such beach in Cornwall not only has some fascinating history attached, it is also a must for an entirely different reason.
At low tide Cornwall’s longest beach stretches for 3 fabulous miles between Hayle and Godrevy Head.
Known as Gwithian Towans Beach, or at the other end Godrevy Beach, this magnificent stretch of golden sand really is one of Cornwall’s finest.
It’s position on the dramatic north coast means that the Atlantic swell and prevailing winds makes this both a surfer’s paradise and a great place for kitesurfers and windsurfers alike.
But with 3 miles of sand to choose from there is plenty of room for everyone. And plenty of opportunity for swimmers and the bucket and spade brigade too!
Well, yesterday’s post caused a shift in reader response, both here and on other Social Media platforms. Generally, the response was very positive. One response, however, was challenging. It happens when an idea challenges one’s belief system. Why do we so readily dismiss other ideas? Still, that response had me think hard about body acceptance. Just what does that mean – body acceptance?
From a naturist point of view, it appears to mean that we are uncritical of the appearance of others in their naked state. We see a person who is without clothing and are non-judgmental about that person’s physical state. It sounds simple. However, since we all come programmed [psychologically] with a host of complexes and triggers, it really isn’t simple at all. No one is walking around the planet complex free, as much as one wants to think they are. If you fall in love, a complex is involved. If you respond with any emotional heat, a complex is involved. Of course, the more conscious one is about their complexes, the more one is tolerant and compassionate about the complexity of others.
I am not as young as I once was – an understatement that often gives me a chuckle. I like being my age, for the most part. At one point in my life, I was thirty or so pounds lighter. I was skinny. I would run marathons. And, I was unaware of my complexes. Though I was a decent competitive runner, I was never good enough in my own eyes. In time, my body protested hard enough to bring excessive running to an end. I didn’t run for physical fitness or to maintain a certain body weight. I didn’t know why I ran. I just had to run and keep running. As I became more aware of my complexes, the need to run lessened. Now I walk for enjoyment, usually; sometimes because I get caught in an old complex and push the pace and the distance. Regardless, my body has paid the price for what I did and what I didn’t do to consciously care for it. Nowadays, I listen to my body better. I see my body more honestly. And, I do what I can for my body. After all, there is no replacement model which I can purchase.
Too many see body acceptance as a passive act, especially with regards to themselves. Look in the mirror and accept what you see there. All is good. Well, that is debatable. Is it “all good”? Does your body give you hints about needing to be treated better? We all know the answer to that question. However, most of us don’t have the will of the fortitude to make the changes our bodies are asking of us. It’s easier to see in others and make judgements about them and how they treat their bodies.
‘I’m worried I might get an erection…’ As a naked yoga instructor and someone who speaks publicly about normalising non-sexual nudity and a nudist-friendly lifestyle…this is one of the most common concerns males express to me when it comes to considering social nudity. Generally speaking, erections is a topic that I feel is not touched on anywhere near enough…even within the nudist community. It is a topic that I feel deserves a whole lot more understanding and a lot less shame…especially when it comes to social nudity. A topic that I feel is just as important for us women to understand as it is for men. From the physiology of erections all the way through to erection etiquette, I am here today to open up the discussion and speak candidly on a topic that has been a long time coming and is in dire need of clarification and resolution.
Whilst many males express their keen interest to participate in non-sexual social nudity and embody a more body positive and nudist-friendly lifestyle, unfortunately fear of getting an erection is also one of the biggest deterrents that hinders many males from actually getting involved in the first place.
To be honest, when it comes to social nudity, it (erection) doesn’t happen anywhere near as much as you might think as an outsider looking in. Some males I have spoken to have expressed that whilst, yes, this was an initial concern for them, once they stripped down and settled in, they discovered that it wasn’t an issue. When it comes to social nudity…experiencing an erection is something that may or may not happen…and, if it does happen to you, the most important thing is the way in which you approach and handle the situation.
To clarify with absolute resolution…an erection, in and of itself, is not something that needs to be shamed, feared and judged…yes, even when it comes to non-sexual social nudity.
There is so much misperception, misunderstanding and stigma around erections. All this stigma and taboo comes down to a lack of awareness, conversation and education on the topic. With little to no conversation on the subject, we’re left with presumptuous judgements that have us confused and disillusioned about the topic.
I once again find myself writing here, wondering at the same time, why do I do this? Why do I write a blog post, especially on a site that is really not one that has a significant readership? Why do I place photos of myself in these posts? Obviously, it can’t be mostly about being an exhibitionist, though there is a bit of that in every blog post written by most people regardless of whether they are naturists, nudists, or folk that find comfort and safety in their clothing. With an average of about 12 visitors each day over the past two weeks, it is also, obviously, not about feeding my fan base. Okay, I’ll admit that the past two weeks have been an anomaly when it comes to my visitor count – December has its other demands from us. But the point remains, writing here does not seem to be about “others.” I guess that means that whatever is prompting me to keep writing on the blog site is about “self” – me, moi.
This photo, for example, is one taken this morning for me. The unedited version was placed in my personal journal which I maintain with more effort than I do this blog site. The photo was taken because of my attempt to be transparent with myself. It serves as a record of my physical state while the words serve as a record of my psychological state of being. The journal can’t really be called a diary as it doesn’t record much of what happened in my world. Now, I assume that simply knowing that I keep such a journal, one would wonder what the purpose of using some of my journal photos in this blog site is all about.
I took this photo because I had just trimmed off most of my body hair, something I will do again in two weeks time before we fly off to Ecuador. The photo then becomes a record; that’s it, an objective record of my physical self for December 19th, 2019. After writing my journal entry, I wondered about this whole thing regarding body hair and naturism. I’m seventy years old and no one cares if I have body hair or not. In the world of social naturism, especially in the online version of that collective, body hair sparks a never-ending debate. It seems absurd when you thing about it, especially when the body hair on one’s head is rarely questioned.
Some people dismiss streakers, naked protesters and even nudists and life models as ‘exhibitionists’ without fully appreciating that we are all, to a greater or lesser extent, motivated by exhibitionism. We learn to be that way in order to stay alive. A baby needs to be seen and to be noticed by its mother, and this need continues to operate in us throughout our lives… Every human being is motivated by this deep desire to be seen, to have attention paid to them, to be noticed and to be heard.
I keep trying to figure out how the social media thing coincides – in a meaningful way – with the naturist cause. I recently re-established my presence on Facebook and Instagram, (simply waiting for someone on a minimum wage salary to shut off my account for too much butt cleavage), hoping I might reinvigorate my web/blog presence to keep spreading the word that naked is not as weird as some have made it out to be.
But I have to say, forging the shark-infested waters of social media can be daunting! I’m less than a week into a new Facebook profile, and I can’t even count the number of “friend requests” from “beautiful women” who all have the same bio and no profile, or even more bizarre (to me!) private messages that routinely follow this same script:
Them: Hi. How r u
Me: Well, thank you. Trying to get a lot of morning stuff done.
Them: r u naked?
Me: Ummm… (In fact, I probably am.)
Them: Full body shot focused on genitalia appears in thread.
Me: Wow. Nice work there. Gotta go, Have an 8 o’clock meeting!
Nudist swimmers have complained they were booted out of a leisure centre after a renovation will see the installation of floor to ceiling windows.
Alton Sports Centre used to host once-a-month sessions for swimmers who wanted to strip off.
The naturist group says it has been holding the sessions since the 1990s, and that 34 people regularly attend to swim naked.
Plans for the new building include a substantial amount of glazing and floor to ceiling windows along two sides of the main pool, making it visible from the cafe, reception, climbing and soft play areas.
One aggrieved nudist, Julian, who did not give his last name, told the BBC that those who had attended the final session on Sunday “were very dismayed indeed” by the decision.
He accused the centre’s management of “not engaging with or discussing the issue in any way with the naturist users of the sports centre during the construction of the replacement building”.
Author of How To Have Feminist Sex Flo Perry appeared on GMB this morning
Claims kids being exposed to human form can make them less self conscious
Viewers weren’t keen on the idea with one saying the class could be ‘dangerous’
A feminist author has claimed that children seeing naked bodies from a young age can make them feel more ‘relaxed’ about the human body in the long run.
Flo Perry and Mariella Frostrup appeared on Good Morning Britain today where they debated whether or not children’s art classes should include life drawing, in order to make them more comfortable with the human form.
Flo, from London, believes it could be a ‘mind-opening experience’ while Mariella, 57, Somerset, said that while something needs to be done to address negative body ideals, she doesn’t feel this is the ‘most productive way’ to go about it.
Viewers weren’t keen on the idea, with one saying most young children would ‘laugh their heads off’ at the sight of a naked body, while others were angry at the idea, with one branding it dangerous’.
Flo argued: ‘Naked strangers is this big word. Nobody is gonna be like, “Put my kid in form of naked strangers”.
‘We have to examine our own reaction to that and think “Why do we have that reaction?”.
Cornwall has been named a top staycation hotspot for 2020 – with more than one in three Brits looking to book a visit this year.
A new survey of more than 2,000 people by Caterer.com, the UK hospitality job board, revealed seven in ten Brits are looking to holiday at home twice this year, adding £27 billion to the UK economy.
Cornwall’s restaurant scene is considered to be a major drawcard – with nearly one in five (14%) considering it a foodie hotspot.
A popularity increase in the staycation industry has also sparked a hospitality jobs boom as hotels, restaurants and bars hire to keep up with growing demand. More than 315,000 jobs were advertised on Caterer.com last year.
Unfortunately, Cornwall has narrowly missed out for 2020, as the Lake District has been declared the top staycation spot, with nearly half (45%) of people considering holidaying in this location.
We get asked a lot of questions, but probably the most common questions have to do with relationships, love, dating, etc. A few months ago we did a workshop on this topic at a naturist gathering. so we thought it might be useful to the nudist world to share some highlights with you.
Should I look for a nudist partner?
NO….nudists only make up 1-3% of the population. To focus on finding that sort of rare individual is like looking for a needle in a haystack. It would severely limit your dating pool and probably end up working against your dating success. In fact, 75-80% of nudists in the USA are already married! The good part of that statistic is that many nudists report being introduced to nudism by their partner.
So, focus on compatibility….true compatibility. That is what makes a relationship work. Communication and “speaking the same language” matter far more than whether he or she wears pants.
You want what THEY want, a rounded balanced interesting person. BALANCE matters….for you as an individual and for them. A person who is a nudist to the point of imbalance will have a very difficult time dating….not because they are a nudist, but because they are not a balanced person. So, focus on nudism simply being a part of the bigger picture of who you are, instead of the ONE THING that you wish you could find in a partner.
Don’t use one of those nudist dating websites. Seriously…..don’t waste your time.
You have a better chance of meeting somebody who is NOT a nudist that is open to trying it than you do meeting a nudist who you are compatible with. So make your goal compatibility and true connection.
Many people are interested in nudism but never give it a try. There are a number of reasons for this – and a number of excuses.
What’s the difference? If it’s a reason, it’s something that is actually preventing you from trying it. Maybe you live too far from a nudist venue. Or the people around you are not accepting of the idea. Or you’re worried about the professional implications if someone found out that you’re a nudist.
These are all potentially legitimate reasons you can’t participate in nudism, or at least some aspect of it. (You can always try it at home when everyone else is gone, or you can go somewhere secluded…) But in this post I’m talking about excuses, not legitimate reasons. Excuses are just as likely to keep someone from trying out nudism, especially social nudism – in fact, they might be even more likely to stop someone than legitimate reasons are.
There are many fears associated with nudism that fall into this category. Heck, that’s the reason I wrote my first book on nudism! I recognized that if a wannabe nudist were armed with a little more knowledge, they could probably get past many of their misgivings.
People’s fears about nudity and nudism aren’t really surprising. Our society’s attitudes turn into negative messages that we hear every single day.
The modern world is a pretty unfriendly place for nudists, in many ways. It’s not surprising that we internalize those messages, and turn them into reasons not to be who we want to be.
I hope it’s clear that I don’t blame people for the excuses they make for not being nudists. But I think that addressing the most common fears directly, and examining these most common excuses, is a step towards people embracing the nudist self they want to be. We’ve all been there, but there’s a light at the end of the nudist beach for those who embrace the freedom in experiencing a more clothes-free life.